Guides

the longest L has gone without speaking to me is seven months during which time a friend roped me into being a guide leader. I'm sure they did this to prove something to L but I'm not sure it had the desired effect.  He resents it, he resents every moment I spend at every meeting.   It's not so bad now he has this new job - he's working anyway so all I get ear ache for is not being there to take him to work (he's not allowed to drive).  

Pre new job I had to put up with anything from a mild sulk for 24 hours to a 3 day long one with no dinner....  he cooks,  I'd get home from work on a guides night and he'd make sure him and the kids had eaten and there was nothing left for me.   I never said anything, after all I could be imagining it, couldn't I?  

it's not just guides it's anything that takes me away from him, training courses for work, visiting friends (which I don't often do - it's not worth the hassle).   He once accused me of going out without him every night for two weeks, when we sat down and worked it out I'd been out four times, twice at guides, and that was unusual.   He said it felt like more.. I'm sure it did. 

So I do guides but I don't go to any county or division meetings, I try and wangle out of any weekend activities, training events, holidays etc - anything for an easy life!