Guides

the longest L has gone without speaking to me is seven months during which time a friend roped me into being a guide leader. I'm sure they did this to prove something to L but I'm not sure it had the desired effect.  He resents it, he resents every moment I spend at every meeting.   It's not so bad now he has this new job - he's working anyway so all I get ear ache for is not being there to take him to work (he's not allowed to drive).  

Pre new job I had to put up with anything from a mild sulk for 24 hours to a 3 day long one with no dinner....  he cooks,  I'd get home from work on a guides night and he'd make sure him and the kids had eaten and there was nothing left for me.   I never said anything, after all I could be imagining it, couldn't I?  

it's not just guides it's anything that takes me away from him, training courses for work, visiting friends (which I don't often do - it's not worth the hassle).   He once accused me of going out without him every night for two weeks, when we sat down and worked it out I'd been out four times, twice at guides, and that was unusual.   He said it felt like more.. I'm sure it did. 

So I do guides but I don't go to any county or division meetings, I try and wangle out of any weekend activities, training events, holidays etc - anything for an easy life!

I offered..

You'd think that if your wife offered to pick you up from work dressed as a school girl you'd be interested wouldn't you?

Would you not want to drive straight home and do naughty things to her? 

Might you not even be able to wait until you got home? 

My husband, hereafter referred to as L showed some interest when I mentioned this to him over the phone.  He always phones me from work, he gets bored easily .  He works evenings, until midnight.  

Anyway cutting a long story short, about 30 mins before he finishes work he calls me again and asks me to order him a mixed kebab so we can pick it up on the way home, I had a fit....  not just because he's supposed to watch what he eats as he had a stroke 2 years ago, not just because it's £7 and we're supposed to be watching the pennies since he took this new "less stressful"  job which pays half what his old one did but because I had thought I was going to get a night of passion... or at least 30 mins of passion...

needless to say I didn't bother getting dressed up..